Marriage is beautiful when viewed from afar. You see the smiles of couples celebrating anniversaries, the display of affection between newlyweds, and the glamour of grand weddings, and you think, “I want this.” But when you step into marriage, you quickly realize that what is behind number six is more than number seven — there is far more depth and responsibility than meets the eye. Many prepare so well for the romantic aspects of marriage but fail to prepare for the realities of it. The truth is this: the hardest parts of marriage play a more dominant role in sustaining a union than the romantic moments ever will. Romance can ignite love, but what breaks most marriages is not the absence of romance; it is the couple’s inability to withstand the hardest parts of marriage. Below are five of the hardest aspects of marriage that many people will not tell you, but you must prepare for if you want a lasting and fulfilling marriage: 1. STAYING FAITHFUL Faithfulness in marriage goes bey...
A Lesson From the Past: The High Cost of Hospitality Why History Must Be Taught — And Remembered. They say those who forget history are doomed to repeat it. But in Nigeria, we’re not just forgetting — we’re sleepwalking into a repetition. Here’s a story you won’t find in your average schoolbook — but it should be there. In 1804, King Yunfa of Gobir (present-day Sokoto) welcomed a wandering Fulani Islamic scholar and his followers. His name? Usman Dan Fodio. That single act of hospitality would change the face of Northern Nigeria forever. What started as a peaceful coexistence ended in bloodshed, war, and the fall of the Hausa kingdoms. By 1808, King Yunfa was dead, and Dan Fodio had established the Sokoto Caliphate, installing himself as Sultan. Fulani emirs rapidly replaced the indigenous Hausa rulers — a sweeping conquest disguised as religious reform. The Fulani didn’t stop there. The once-mighty Afonja of Ilorin, a Yoruba warlord, allied with a Fulani warrior, Janta Alimi. Th...